However, while so many of us are focused on the idea of commitment, most don’t consider what being committed actually means. They are those who don’t want to be tied down by commitments. Are your expectations too high when it comes to relationships?
Do we pay attention to each other’s needs?
A successful long-term relationship has many components. It takes all parties to weather the storms together and maintain a lasting relationship. Being considerate of each other’s needs is a huge factor.
When you are partners, nearly every decision you make affects the other person. Thus, it is important to consider whether or not, you know what your partner needs and wants and vice versa, and make a concerted effort to consider those needs and wants.
If your partner pays attention to you, knows what you like, what you want, how you react in most situations and so forth; you will feel respected and acknowledged. Feeling respected and acknowledged is everything.
Do we appreciate each other?
Are you grateful for what you partner brings to your relationship? Do they value what you have to offer? If you aren’t being appreciated for who you are as an individual, and what you bring to the relationship, you are bound to feel unloved and undervalued over time.
Your partner isn’t just your lover or a provider; they should also be your best friend. They should be the first person you call when things go wrong, or when something amazing happens to you. You need to genuinely like each other. Partnerships last because the people in them improve each other’s lives.
Do we accept each other as we are?
Acceptance like being respected and acknowledged is a core building block in any solid commitment. If you are busy trying to change your partner or they you, you are both bound to be disappointed.
Real love of the deep, committed and lasting variety means accepting your partner, even with their flaws. That doesn’t mean being mistreated or disrespected. No one should accept abuse. It means allowing your partner to be who they are and unabashedly.
If you find yourself feeling embarrassed or intolerant of their basic character traits, you are not going to be happy with them over the long run, and you probably shouldn’t commit to them either.
To make a commitment, one needs to be reliable and dependable, especially when it comes to keeping promises and observing ongoing commitments. Don’t take others for granted. Never forget where you came from, what touched you and who loves you.