make grand promises, it sometimes occurs to them that they now have to fulfill the obligation they have made and they wish, they hadn't been so quick to make a grand promise. Be careful what you promise. Don't let enthusiasm get the better of you.
When people become excited, they sometimes become a bit overly optimistic. When people become a bit overly optimistic, they make grand promises. When people
make grand promises, it sometimes occurs to them that they now have to fulfill the obligation they have made and they wish, they hadn't been so quick to make a grand promise. Be careful what you promise. Don't let enthusiasm get the better of you.
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'I thought you were going to do it'. Those words usually cause two people to feel very nervous and rarely prompt a response of 'gosh, you're right, I did agree to do that, didn't I?' from either party.
People are often too quick to defend themselves or pin blame on others in such scenarios. If you have forgotten to do something, then own up to it. Doing so really will eliminate a lot of unnecessary stress between you and the other person. Being honest can be a painful experience especially when what you have to say isn’t pretty, or isn’t what someone else
wants to hear. You know the old saying, “The truth hurts” Have you ever had someone tell you something about yourself, you didn’t want to hear? Even if it was the truth, and even if came from a place of caring, it still hurt, right? Still, the importance of being honest especially about your needs and feelings cannot be overstated. So, how do you tell someone a painful truth? It might be hard to ask of you to consider their feelings. While it is easy to only think about your feelings in any given situation especially one you have contemplated deeply, it is important to give thought to how the other person is going to react to whatever you have to say. Their reaction will depend on what you say, and most importantly of how you say it. If they were sharing this truth with you, how would you want them to do it? How would this truth make you feel? So put yourself in their shoes. If you consider the other person’s feeling before you reveal a truth to them, you may end up hurting them less. Being honest doesn’t have to mean being blunt or cruel. Just because you have to say something that might be rough, it doesn’t mean you have to say it in a rough way. Say it in the kindest way possible. This doesn’t mean you have to sugar-coat your words. Just be careful with the words you choose. “I feel” statements are more effective than “You are” statements, so be sure to use them. One is an observation. The other is an accusation. No one can argue with how you feel, but they can protest when you are blaming them for everything. In the words of Maya Angelou, “People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel.” It’s easier to focus on blaming things that are outside of your power than to take responsibility for the things that are actually in your power. Do not beg someone to love you. There is no use in hopeless pleas of trying to make someone stay. You are too good to chase someone who does not know your worth.
Do not keep waiting for someone who doesn’t acknowledge your value. You shouldn’t have to prove any of that; you are worth more than that. There are those who look back on their lives wishing they could have been happier or done more. We all know time flies. Days, weeks, months and years slip away. Don’t let them pass you by. Make the necessary changes that bring happy, joyful memories, so you can look back with no regrets.
We sometimes underestimate the effect of our moods on others. What preoccupies our minds can affect our behavior and others, particularly those closest to us will soon pick up on this.
Be aware of the very positive and encouraging or negative and discouraging influence you can have on certain people. Your clout is much stronger on many levels than you probably realize. Use your influence wisely and unselfishly. Are you going round in circles wondering, if you're wasting your time pursuing something? It doesn't take much to encourage, enlighten or motivate us.
All we usually want to know is that we're not wasting valuable time and energy pursuing something that doesn't justify both. We need to allow for some time and energy to be invested before we can decide, if more time is required. In many ways the world's a much smaller place than it once was. Transportation modes have changed and keep changing, global communication that was once prohibitively costly is free.
Despite our advanced technology nothing can take away physical distance between us and someone we love, or wish we were closer to in terms of miles. Remember in life nothing remains unchanged and
everything evolves through transformation. Learn how to evaluate every situation with the correct amount of modesty. If you are living a moment of success, re-dimension your enthusiasm. If on the other hand you are waiting for a development be patient. Life can be calm, still, rough, rigid but in the end, it’s always beautiful. Everything turns and re-news itself. Life is full of challenges and it can be overwhelming at times. Many times we create expectations either consciously or unconsciously, anticipating certain results.
We are disappointed when life has other plans for us. During these trying times, the situation may feel hopeless as our goals and dreams seem further and further away. We may have a hard time believing and trusting ourselves. As we go through these stages, it can be very reassuring and strengthening to surround ourselves with those who do believe in us. One of our greatest emotional needs is to feel loved and understood by someone who truly cares. Perhaps, an encouraging word, a hug, or simply knowing someone 'who matters' believes in us, especially when we have stopped believing in ourselves. It provides us a sense of strength and in our decisions. Bear in mind; this does not mean we should depend on others to fulfill us. It does mean their support will help provide the strength needed, while we regain our own trust and self- esteem. |
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