Sometimes, we make excuses for their abusive behaviours, or by ignoring warning signs that could have helped us avoid our insurmountable heartache. We ended up being hurt, abused, misled and abandoned by those same people, who we trusted and loved.
There is never a good excuse for abusive behaviour. If you are being abused in anyway, it would be in your best interest to protect yourself and get away from your abuser. Unless it is in physical self-defence, there is never a good reason to abuse someone else. It doesn’t matter, if they cheated, lied or deceived you in any way.
If your significant other is being sexually coercive and then tries to make it up to you with gifts, apologies and kind words, it doesn’t mean you are not being abused. It is how an abuser keeps the abused around, by messing with them psychologically and emotionally. If your significant other is physically abusing you and makes you to conceal yourself, so no one sees the bruises, or is telling you to not tell anyone about their abuse, it is in your best interest to leave them.
An abuser is a control freak. An abuser won’t accept you the way you are. An abuser doesn’t love you and will continue to show disrespect towards you. An abuser wants someone they can control and break down.
We often long for freedom, when we feel confined in an abusive relationship. We long for freedom of peace of mind in a place like our souls. We long for freedom to grow and experience life in the place we call home.
Abuse is totally wrong. It is the most obvious red flag. Abuse is not a way of life. Living with fear and anxiety is no way to live. Staying in an abusive relationship will lead to further abuse.
Freedom makes breakthroughs to peace. It is how you use, what you know that is important. Everyone wants love and everyone deserves love. No one deserves to be abused.
It’s never too late for new beginnings. Someday, someone is going to look at you with a light in their eyes, you have never seen. They will look at you like you are everything; they have been looking for their entire life. Wait for it!