Uncertainty can become very unsettling when dealing with the past.
Life is constantly changing and never stays the same. But while this is the truth about reality, it does not mean that
‘letting go’ and going with the flow of life is necessarily easy or straightforward.
The outer world is constantly changing and transforming, and yet the inner world and what is going on within someone
can create resistance to this. And when this happens and there is a resistance to what is taking place, life can become
a real challenge. One is then out of alignment and no longer present and responding to life in real time.
It has been said that the present moment is all there is and that the past, and the future are nothing more than an
illusion. But when one doesn't let go, they are trapped in the past or thinking about a future that would be better.
So, the present moment can then end up being lost and wasted as a result.
What happened a few weeks ago or even a few years ago is consuming ones present moment; which is the only
moment, where one has a sense of power. There is no way for one to change, what happened in the past.
It is not uncommon to hear someone say 'just let go' and while this can sound completely appropriate, it is not always
this easy. And just because someone knows that they need to let go intellectual, it doesn't mean that letting go
emotionally is easy. In order to let go and change how one feels, one needs to embrace and be with their emotions. Through this process, they will gradually release it upon acceptance.
Some people are able to deal with the consequences and ‘just let go’ and all could be well. However, the opposite
could also be true and one could end up feeling far worse. This could cause one to feel that they lack something that
others have. They might even end up feeling guilty for holding onto the past and not moving on with their life. The
reactions one gets can all depend on how emotionally aware they are, and who they surround themselves with.
Most emotions are typically overlooked and denied in today's world, avoiding them at all costs is the norm. It is then
not so much that 'just letting go' works for people, as it is that it allows them to escape from how, they truly feel.
One could end up in a battle between the memories that they hold on to and their emotional pain from the memories.
This resistance is going to be natural based on two possible reasons. If one has been taught that they should just let go, then they won't want to get in touch with how they feel. To do this is going to be seen as a distraction and what will sabotage them from letting go. The other is if, they have not developed a healthy relationship to their emotions. If one
feels uncomfortable with them, it will be natural to have very little, if any connection to them.
We are all emotional beings and let’s face it; most people have a difficult time dealing with their emotions. Each situation that one has in their life causes emotions and some create more than others. When these emotions are allowed to flow, one will remain in the present. If this doesn't happen, their attention will end up getting caught in the past.
The mind can end up creating thoughts and beliefs based on these feelings, but at the root of it all, it's about the
emotional experience that had. So, one could let go of their thoughts or beliefs about what took place, but if the feelings that were caused by what took place have not released as well, it won't make much difference.
Trapped Emotions
A clear example of this is when one experiences some kind of traumatic event, or an accumulation of minor events
that are just as traumatic. When trauma is experienced, one can end up not going through the complete emotional experience. So they end up staying trapped in a feeling cycle that was unable to be completed.
They could even ‘move on’ and it seems that they have ‘let go’ of the past, but failing to deal with the consequences
and inner emotions. Most people are in denial and swiftly enter into another relationship, and act like nothing had happened.
One can then end up losing touch with these feelings to protect themselves, and even end up living in their head as a result. This is done for protection and not something that one should feel ashamed of for doing. And all the time these emotions and feelings are trapped in one's body, their attention is going to be brought back to the past in some way. It
is the emotional charge that is causing one to do this.
It all comes down to ‘awareness’ and being able to release these trapped feelings and emotions. This can be done with
the assistance of a therapist, or a trusted and genuine friend who will allow them to face their setbacks, and gradually release them without being judged or ridiculed. A lot of patient and understanding is required to be successful.
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