A person who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a person who cares.
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With today’s busy lifestyles, it is all too easy to put relationships on the backburner and take them for granted. Even though you may have every intention of spending regular time with your partner, hectic schedules get in the way and you end up running in every direction except
toward each other. Yet, you know that your personal relationships are paramount to personal fulfillment. Be sure to set some time aside each week to rediscover the people that mean most to you. Be alone with that person, talk, enjoy your time together and renew your relationship. After all, in this life, your loved ones are what really matter. The easiest kind of relationship is with many; the hardest is with just one.
In truth, many of us feel less vulnerable when we’re with a group of people. No one’s looking at us closely and no one knows us intimately. It’s easy to hide our real nature along with our true feelings. However, “easy” isn’t always best. When you open yourself up and share honest feelings one-on-one with someone, you stand to gain the rewards of a rich and lasting bond that could never be formed with a group. Yes, one-on-one relationships are more work, but when you treasure these relationships and work to maintain them, the emotional rewards are priceless. We see things, people see differently. Sometimes we have thoughts and ideas of what someone should be. They could be that of family members, friends, coworkers and really anyone, even a perfect stranger.
When they aren't like we wished them to be, we get disappointed in them and sometimes in life. If we aren't careful and have standards that are unwarranted or unattainable, we might miss some amazing people along the way. It's good to let someone be themselves and not ask them to be who they aren't. We make choices and sometimes we make poor ones. It's not so hard to say you are sorry, when the time calls for it, especially when you understand your own humanity.
There are times we are worried about what we or someone else has done, and we wonder, if we or they can go on. There are times things happen that certainly change our lives and someone else's, and we are forced to go on in spite of what happened. If the pain of the past rests on your shoulders, day after day, it will get heavy. You have to know how to carry it or how to let it go. You either carry it with forgiveness and understanding or let it go with the same. You may have another choice but you will never have a better option. Just a reach out of "Forgive me" or "I was wrong" can be very healing to another heart. Sometimes that heart will share further things that you may even love or benefit from hearing. Being humble does not mean you are weak and you have no opinion or knowledge. Humility often deals with how a person gives their opinion or expresses knowledge.
Humility sometimes is not a prized virtue because it appears weak or subdued to some. You can be strong and still be humble. It's how you use your strength and how you shine. Humility is having a right assessment of you. There is always a mixture of truth and error in how someone views us. You can't control how other people see you. You can find the best in the worst and the worst in the best. It's how you weigh the focus. You do control what you contribute and how you want to participate in a
relationship. When someone comes to you, be tender with their heart, especially when you know they are trying to find a way to you. When you see someone is broken over a situation, and when you know someone is burdened by problems and/or fear, it's a prompting to be tender and help them see it through without you walking away.
When you think you have nothing to give remember you are often so wrong. Someone needs your strength. Someone needs your wisdom. Someone needs your experience. Someone needs you. Eliminate whatever is unnecessary and outworn in your life from clutter and disorder in your environment, or even a long-held attitude or belief which keeps you from going after what you really want in life.
To win friends and influence people, some people will say anything they believe will achieve either or both. They recognize a need that exists on another's part and can sometimes manage to get them to agree to something by using that to their advantage. Once a need is identified and an appealing solution offered, it's often hard for the other person to refuse. Be careful toward what is being proposed to you. If something looks or sounds too good to be true, then it probably is.
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