Abusive people will think it is okay to treat you badly, hurt you, play games and talk bad to you; it is all justified in their eyes. But the one moment you turn the table and give them a taste of their own medicine automatically you are abusive. You just get tired of taking it over and over and you stop allowing it to happen. Doesn't feel good when they are the receiver, but they sure don't mind dishing it out to others.
There comes a time you get tired of being abused, you get tired of taking it day after day from them. And one day you reach that point that you aren't going to take it anymore. Then the abusive people become haters and that is okay because you can't make everyone like you even when you do things right.
Many narcissists have a very loose and unaccountable life. Rules and regulations mean conforming to society and being ‘normal’ and the
narcissistic is horrified about being non-unique. This leads to a precarious
life of attaining image, status, possessions, objects and attention regardless
of consequences.
Many narcissists have a superior image to feel important. At the very least they expect to be recognized for their capabilities, if results are not yet attained. However, scratch just under the surface and there is a literal minefield of disasters waiting to happen. Narcissists consistently attract problems and severe consequences into their life. Life is chaotic and often disastrous.
Inevitably a narcissist cannot maintain a falsely constructed image. Much of their image may have been acquired by deceptive means, whilst refusing to ‘play by the rules’. Ego driven immediate gratification is the name of the game. When attention towards lack of creditability, precautious debts, manipulating others for self-gain arises the narcissist suffers an intolerable narcissistic wound to his already severely damaged self-esteem. Any assistance or notification of the problems is a major insult and all lengths of denial, manipulation, aggression, intimidation, blame-shifting or pathological lies are used as defensive mechanisms to cover up or avoid the scrutiny. The narcissist doesn’t feel shame regarding his behaviour or the losses and damage he created for others.
Nothing is predestined. The obstacles of your past can become the gateways that lead to new beginnings. It is the beginning of a new chapter of your life. You can waste it or use it. What you do today is important. When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever; in its place is something that
you have left behind. Let it be something good.