the pain of saying goodbye.
There is no perfect way to say goodbye to someone. It’s something we all have to do at some point, yet we are rarely prepared for the emotional reactions it triggers. Loss, sadness, nostalgia, and anger are just a few of the
feelings that may arise, when we are confronted by the harsh reality a goodbye brings to light.
When a breakup happens, it’s obvious someone is left behind. While the goodbye may be unavoidable and you are being left behind, there is no point in trying to control the situation and force someone to stay.
Acknowledge Your Feelings
Life is finite. Time passes. While wallowing is never healthy, it is important to process your experiences. Likewise, though it doesn’t always make it easier in the moment. If you accept that you are not alone in this experience, you will find you feel less lonely while you are living it.
You needn’t behave as if; you are unaffected to impress anyone. In fact, doing so will only leave you with regrets. You will later find yourself wishing you had been authentic, whether because you think it could have changed things, or simply because you have learned the importance of your words and actions aligning with your honest experience.
Stop keeping your feelings bottled up inside. You need to express your emotions. Instead of numbing out, let yourself feel whatever it is you are feeling. They make you deal with reality. The end of an era via a breakup, move, or even death is something we have to deal with. Stop going over what if, could, or should have been.
You ask yourself; where do I go from here. You start having fear of moving on. We don't realize just how much we need the people who have always stood by us; until we have lost our footing and realize they are no longer with us.
Instead do something to celebrate the time in your life that is
passing. Perhaps, looking at old photos and cherishing the good memories. Don’t be afraid to remember what was meaningful, even if, it brings about more pain in the moment. But, if it is too painful to deal with these memories, just put it away and not look back.
No one is deprived of pain and we have all suffered in our own ways. Never sell yourself short because of difficult challenges you have been through in your past. You would not be who you are TODAY, if it was not for what you went through.
I believe our journey is all about healing ourselves and healing each other in our own special ways. You could be playing a key role in someone's life and recovery, as you inspire them with your story.
Let's just help each other put all those pieces back
together and make it to the end. Let us help each other survive. Together we are all on a journey called life. NOW it's time to offer your experience, strength and hope to those who need it most.
Part of life is learning to let go. It makes no difference whether it means letting go of control, pride, expectations or another human being.
Acceptance is the only way through things. The good news in that is acceptance opens you up to the next chapter. By letting go of what’s gone, you open the door to new people, places and experiences. The only certainty in this life is
change and by embracing it, you go a long way toward making it positive.
We think so often that we are helpless, but we're not. You have the power to heal yourself, and you need to know that. We always have the power over our minds.