It is important for you to realize that life does go on!
There is no dramatic pause in life. When the boat rocks and disaster strikes, no doubt there is pain. Everybody needs time to get over their misery. But inevitably, your future has to go on. One has to let go of the agonies of the past and step into new projects, new interest, new faces and new horizons have to be found.
After a period of mourning and bereavement, when you feel ready to go on, move ahead confidently and purposefully. This new turn in your life may not be joyful at first. But the heart has a way of making old wounds seem less painful if you are willing to let go. After a while these new facets will give you immense joy, once again!