to start blaming. First, you yell; then the argument escalates into damaging
accusations.
Be aware that when you do this, it only perpetuates more hurt and anger. To avoid painful words, stop and think about how you feel and why. This will
dissolve the negative energy, right away and help you move to a place where you can focus on what is most important.
After you’re clear about how you feel, focus on your needs. Ask yourself what you need to feel better about the situation. Next time anger strikes take a moment to focus on your feelings and needs. Share them in a non-threatening way to replace hurt and anger with happiness.