Radical Self-Acceptance
One of the biggest gifts I have noticed in anyone including myself exploring self-acceptance is a deeper acceptance, compassion and understanding of self and others.
You can give yourself that acceptance, compassion and understanding right now! It doesn’t matter whether you have explored your personality type, or are at all interested in how or why you are the way you are, or what any of that means.
Do not seek to be accepted, seek to be you and accept yourself for who you are.
You can accept yourself for exactly who and where you are regardless. By acceptance, I don’t mean ‘resigning to’. If there’s something you would like to heal, change or let go of -
I believe loving acceptance is a first step.
What you acknowledge and accept, you can more easily let go of and release. It is guilt, repression and judgment that compounds and makes things stick. The only thing wrong
with you is thinking that there’s anything wrong with you.
People often talk about a sense of relief, they experience through feeling ‘understood’
after discovering themselves through a personality typing system, as if they have received some kind of official confirmation stamp saying “It’s OK that you are the way you are.”
Some seek that understanding through visiting a counselor, therapist, reading a particular book or talking to friends, you can grant yourself that stamp of ‘you are OK’ that approval and understanding without any outside source, obviously. I had noticed the gap between people allowing that for themselves, by how they would react to having themselves recognized through an external source.
You can accept yourself in entirety whatever your awareness about whom, how or why you are, the way you are. You can forgive yourself for anything you’re holding against yourself, and grant yourself the love and compassion you may seek right now.
Your Higher Self has total understanding and unconditional love and acceptance of you. It knows all you have been, all you are now, and all you are becoming in this life-time and others and is aware of the countless possibilities available for your growth, and success
and that which will serve you optimally.
Who we are is beyond any ‘type’. We are complex multidimensional beings with many
layers and aspects. We are also not static. We are ever evolving, shedding skins, acquiring new ones, and so forth. We have a subconscious mind full of beliefs, patterns and past experiences brimming with weird and wonderful, or not so wonderful things!
We also have the ability to re-invent ourselves to change those beliefs and re-write those stories and at the deepest level, all potential aspects exist within us in the collective unconscious. I believe, we choose our mates with the foundations of a psychological ‘set-up’. I also believe we have many past experiences, all kinds of personalities on our soul’s evolutionary journey.
Beyond any personality expressions within us exists pure consciousness. We are a spark
of co-creating ourselves and our reality, spinning in and out of existences and through our challenges. Being conscious of personality traits, their strengths and weaknesses can be helpful. What matters most is "love and compassion" coupled with any self-awareness.
There may be many ‘whys’ to the way you are. You may or may not discover these. You don’t need to know them to accept yourself. Accepting all of you, the ‘good, the bad and
the ugly’ is one of the most healing liberating gifts you can give yourself.
Who you truly are is far beyond any personality you experience, transform or transcend in this life-time. You likely have traits you prefer more in yourself than others. Your ‘less preferred’ traits, or what you may even think of as flaws, may have gifts they are hiding or blessings to bring. Your flaws can be doors to gifts and strengths, you didn’t know were
yours.
Those less preferred traits may also be a gift to people in your life, who have attracted you into their life consciously or otherwise for that reason and for the ranging aspects within you, not just the pretty comfortable ones.
We can also be paradoxical with many opposing traits. I can be geeky, timid and courageous, reserved and adventurous, silly and serious, shy and confident, introvert and extrovert.
We are curious fathomless ineffable things! It struck me with all the complexity of our
human nature, the bottom line of what is often being sought through awareness and understanding is acceptance.
We may have many selves and many aspects within, yet ultimately we are no - self. The spiritual being that we are is far beyond any personality. You are a vast magnificent being far beyond anything, you may be able to imagine and comprehend.
You may be so much more than you currently know yourself to be or think you are. You
may have an image and understanding of yourself based on limiting, or negative beliefs about yourself that may not be “who you truly are.”
Radically accept yourself, whether you have any idea, who that ‘you’ are or not! It will always be way more amazing than you can consciously get an understanding of.
Furthermore, whoever you are, you matter, you count, you are enough, and you are loved. You are here for a reason and not least to love, be loved and have fun. You are a valuable piece in the tapestry of this world. At the heart of who you are lies love, and that love will always lead you back to your heart.
Much love and always be yourself, no matter what.
Life-Changing Decisions by Author Julia G. Smith
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