Good communication skills are the foundation of a long-lasting relationship.
We are present in this world in order to relate to others and establish a solid community. “No man is an island.” It goes without saying that we need to communicate with each other in order to fulfill this purpose. It is our responsibility to engage in a nourishing and productive conversation through good communication, romantic relationships, colleagues, business partnerships and even product selling have all been implemented. Good communication skills are the foundation of a long-lasting relationship.
Here are most common mistakes in conversations.
Do you speak quickly?
You are in a brand new situation with a person you have just met, so it’s understandable that you became nervous. Since you didn’t have enough time to compose yourself, you blabbered and spoke too much and
too fast. Because of this, the person you’re talking to wasn’t able to understand any word you’ve said.
Solution: Nervousness brings about the common mistakes in a conversation. So to combat this, just breathe deeply and smile. Assume that the person you’re talking to is interested in what you have to say. Put some pauses in your statements.
Are you really listening? Are you really listening or you just can’t wait for the other person to stop talking, so that you can get your turn to “wow” them with your speaking skills—who cares what they say?
Solution: Put your pride on hold and really hear what the other person is telling you. Learn to read between
the lines. Observe his/her body language. Avoid asking “yes or no” questions and probe deeper instead. You’re there to listen and not to merely hear.
Do you talk about awkward topics with a person you barely know?
Solution: Stay away from topics involving religion, sex, politics and negativity, especially when you’ve just become acquainted with someone. Focus on safe topics such as hobbies, common interests and the topic
of the conference you’re in. Focus on building trust first.
Do you hog the spotlight?
You talk way too much: about yourself, your job, your dreams and frustrations. Pretty soon, the person you’re talking to feels like he/she just attended a whole-day seminar about you.
Is your objective missing?
You discuss bland topics and end the conversation with no real outcome. Were you supposed to build trust? Invite a prospect? No-one knows!
Solution: Adult communication isn’t superficial; it exists to fulfill a purpose. What type of purpose? Define this first before entering a conversation. Ask for your partner’s opinion.
Do you have to be right all the time?
Every conversation seems like a battlefield to you. You have to make everyone agree with what you have to say, so you never back down. You seem to think that you are always right. Are you?
Solution: Accept the fact that everyone is entitled to his/her own opinions. You don’t need to force them into agreeing with you, they will just choose to walk away from you instead. Arrogance causes some of these common mistakes in a conversation to happen.
Do you brag about your achievements?
Although, you are proud of your achievements, you don’t need to brag about it, or rub it in someone face
that you are smart and intelligent.
Solution: It would be smart and intelligent to stay and be HUMBLE.
Are you rude to the person you’re talking to?
You think that you’re better than your talking partner so, you don’t think about respecting their opinions.
Sure, you use polite language and you mind your manners, but your words offend and your attitude
challenges them.
Solution: How you communicate is better than what you communicate. Before you aim to communicate,
aim to respect first.
Is your body language driving them away?
You would like to start communicating with people, but no one seems to want to talk to you. Why? Your
arms are crossed, you are slouching, you do not make eye contact and your eyebrows are furrowed—that’s why.
Solution: Relax. Communication is all about openness and community. Look at people in the eye. Stand up straight. You got this.
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