Be extra cautious of what you say.
Talking can help you connect with others, but it can also destroy relationships. Before you put your foot in
your mouth, it would be in your best interest to be extra cautious of what you say.
Respectfully, here are some cautious tips; I suggest you take into consideration.
When you don’t know who is around you.
No matter who or what you’re talking about, always be careful of who else is around. You may want to complain about a recent project, or simply talk about your personal relationship or family issue but, if you
don’t know who is listening, you could say something offensive or inconsiderate.
Someone asks about your love life.
It’s best to keep details of your love life private, especially if you are spreading negative information about
your significant other. It will only harm your relationship, if he or she finds out you’ve been talking about them,
it could end the relationship forever.
Someone confides in “only you” with private information.
When someone confides in “only you” with private information, listen to what they have to say, and strictly honor their confidence in you to keep it safe. This is a crucial moment for you to stop talking. A secret means someone wants to confide in you, so if you jump in and start talking, the other person will think you don’t value the relationship. Instead, just be quiet and appreciate their confidence in making you their confidante.
Do not use their private information against them, when you feel you need to turn against them, or break off with them. You’re surrounded by gossip. Gossipers love to pull other people into their webs. Don’t let this happen to you. If you gossip with a gossiper, whatever you say can and will be held against you plus, you’ll probably be the next person gossiped about.
Do not talk about someone, when the door is open or closed.
There’s a saying: “walls have ears.” It looks bad to talk behind closed doors, but talking out in the open can also lead to problems. Anytime a door is open or closed, always picture the people standing in the hallway,
just out of your sight but still in earshot. If you are comfortable talking with the door open or closed, you better be comfortable when your “ex” or significant other, or your co-workers knows what you’re talking about them.
No one wants to hear your negativity or bad mouthing. Be cautious of what you say, unless you have a valid concern about someone’s safety. If you’re just spewing problems and negativity, no one will take you seriously, especially when the party you have spoken ill about, finds out about it. Lying never really works. When you get caught, you will ruin the trust you’ve built.
You’re about to make an excuse.
People who make excuses all the time are annoying. Next time someone asks you to help with a project, just focus on what you need from them to get started. This way you will be proactive and you will enlist them to help you get started. If you are not interested in helping out, just be HONEST and tell them.
Next time you want to speak up, make sure what you’re saying will be a positive influence on the conversation and the person you’re speaking to. Learning when to speak and being cautious of what you say is one of developing trust within your organization or personal relationship.
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