ABUSE AND BETRAYAL
Abuse and betrayal affects people’s lives. It destroys families and relationships. It seems
to be a trend; abusers are empowered by selfishness and self-destructive behaviors.
Abuse usually goes hand in hand with emotional betrayal.
The word “Abuse” is alarming and the reactions from it are frightening and dangerous. Abuse is a cowardice act. Abuse is cruelty. Abuse is a Crime.
In light of my past history of being physically, verbally and emotionally abused, I am
bringing the awareness of “ABUSE” to others with the strong intent to STOP ABUSE.
We need to cherish lives. We need to be cherished. We need to keep ourselves safe
and protected, at all times. We must not tolerate any kind of abuse and betrayal. Being aware of “ABUSE” can prevent and protect you from being a victim too.
I have done several researches on Abuse. I find it appalling that the rate of “ABUSE”
is escalating daily, like it is an “epidemic”. What is most disturbing to learn, there are
cases of parents who are afflicting emotional and physical abuse towards their children. They not only come from dysfunctional families, but well educated families as well. It shocking to learn some care-givers are physically abusing their family members and patients in their care.
Abusers are known for their drastic mood change or a sudden emotional outburst. It is overwhelming that most abusers are control freaks. Abusers disregard the values of individuals that become their victims. It is a domineering factor of their character.
When a manipulative person who enforces psychological, physical and emotional
abuse on another individual, his or her actions exhibits recklessness and endangerment. This kind of offset behavior is disturbing and it puts you always on edge. You are always
waiting for the other shoe to drop. You never know what is expected of you. As a result,
you remain hyper vigilant waiting for the other person’s next outburst or change of mood.
An alcoholic or drug abuser is likely to act this way. An emotional unbalance individual
can sometimes act out their depression and anxieties to extremes beyond their control. Having to live with someone like this is tremendously demanding and anxiety provoking. You feel constantly frightened, unsettled and concern of your safety. The person whom
you trusted and cared about has betrayed you in every sense of the word betrayal. They turned against you.
It comes down to the “root of fear”. The root of fear exhibits a sense of loneliness, great amount of insecurities, uncertainties of the inevitable to release one’s self from the entrapment of abuse that one is encircle in. This can be fear of failing, fear of what other people might think, or fear of any change to the status quo. The result of this indecision
and procrastination is fear to move forward on their own. The fear of not knowing of how
to protect one’s self from abuse.
It is a fact, we can be broken down repeatedly, even when we are at our stronger defends. We need to stop being victims of the destructions and dismay in our lives. We need to be extra vigilant and be aware of all the warning signs of abuse.
We need to stop ABUSE. We need to deal with abusers with no tolerance and report all abuse to the authorities of the Law. Only then can we be free to live in our community of self-righteousness, knowing that we made a difference in our lives and the lives of
others.
Emotional Betrayal
Emotional betrayal has many levels. The words “Emotional Betrayal” is defined in many ways. Such as dishonesty, infidelity, untrustworthy that produces conflicts in any relationships. Betrayal usually occur when one partner cheats on the other with someone else, either sexually or emotionally, or both. It also per exists in the lack of respect and protection towards loved ones.
A betrayal of trust that produces conflict between external reality, and a necessary
system of social dependence can lead to emotional and/or physical abuse. Exploitive
relationships can create trauma bonds-chains that link a victim to someone who is dangerous to them.
There are guidelines for you to be aware of abusers. There are ways to prevent one’s self safe from being a victim of abuse. There are ways to disengage one’s self from a bad relationship and maintain sanity. There are ways to dealing with one’s fear, when one is a victim of abuse.
Those who are victims of abuse, it is my hope to re-affirm your beliefs, your self-confidence and reassuring women and men alike; to stop allowing yourself to be a victim. Life does not need to be gut wrenching and painful.
Remember you are not alone in this. I am here to help you find peace and tranquility again. It is my strong advocacy to help others to re-gain their stability. We are special individuals that need to be treated right and with respect at all times.
Experiences are an eye opener for anyone who has been there.
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